So, baby won’t sleep (I’ve worn that T-Shirt 3 times!!_
Sleep deprived mummies! I’d like to tell you, I’ve been there, done it, and worn the T-Shirt three times. ‘( I never learnt) and made the same mistakes again and again.
Why? Because its TOUGH learning to be a mummy. Because usually you don’t always have a clue what you’re supposed to be doing. Contrary to what THEY tell you. You need physical and emotional support, bucket loads of it. Someone to hold your hand and tell you’re doing a flipping good job! Especially when your sleep deprived and exhausted.
You need the emotional support more than ever when you’re pacing that floor night after night, rocking, shushing , cuddling and singing when your trying to get your baby to sleep. You don’t have a clue what you’re doing. Yep you’ve read the books and in theory you should be ok at this ‘Mummyhood’ thing but you’re exhaused, unsure, full of self doubt.
I know what it’s like to question every little parenting decision you make. I know how it feels. You just want someone to tell you it’s okay, it’s all okay. You are making the right decisions for you and your baby. You need to hear those words.
That feeling it never really goes away. With each new challenge comes a whole load more self doubt. More questions, more decisions. So much advice out there, so many different ideas. Particulary around sleep. I know what your self talk is saying.
“How much is too much crying, will it harm my baby?” I’m not a good mother?” “Should my baby really be sleeping in my bed?” “I just don’t know what to do next, I need sleep?” “What am I doing wrong, other babies are sleeping now?” and the self talk goes on.
If you need to rock and cuddle your baby to sleep, then do it!
If you use a dummy, then it’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up.
If your baby sleeps in bed with you just make sure you’re following safe sleep guide lines (www.lullabytrust.co.uk)
If you feed your baby to sleep so be it.
Just work at one thing at a time. Make decisions based on what you think is right for you and your family. If you’re happy with the situation then it’s ok.
If you would like to change things there are plenty of things you can do and the good news is it doesn’t have to involve leaving your baby to cry, but if you have, don’t stress.
We’ve all made decisions we might regret and more besides! This mummyhood thing isn’t always easy. Your baby doesn’t come with a manual.
Making decisions when your sleep deprived isn’t always easy. Why? BECAUSE Sleep is a human need, it’s not a luxury. Yes, of course you can expect less sleep than you had when you become a parent, but we need sleep to stay emotionally and physically healthy. So there comes a point when it needs to be addressed. It’s not selfish, it’s essential. The good news is there are some really little but significant things you can do to help your child sleep.
Make sure you’re consistent. Make sure you know what you want the outcome to be. It’s not the same for everyone. Some of you might be happy with one wake up a night, some of you might like your child in bed with you. Make sure your expectations are realistic. This is important.
I really do get it. I know what it’s like to be trying your best when ‘Your head’s a shed,’ when you can’t think straight.
Why not start to day. Claim the Free Sleep E-Book below. Work through the book step by step. Set yourself just one task to work on. Give yourself a few days, perfect it, feel comfortable with it and move on to the next step.
Each day you will see things improving. Take your time. Each step you take will bring you closer to improving your baby’s sleep habits.
So, because I know how hard it is to be a mummy when your baby won’t sleep and you’re sleep deprived. I’ve put together a little FREEBIE of 10 hints and tips to tweak your baby’s routine. You’ll find it most useful if you are a new parent or your child is under 6 months old. It will even be useful if you are an expectant parent. After all arming yourself with knowledge is key!
Click this link >>http://eepurl.com/-_CFr<<
and fill in your details on the form, check your email and it will be wanging it’s way over to you.
Good Luck Shellie x
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