What the HELL does drowsy but awake mean anyway? Well it mean’s putting your baby down to sleep in the cot awake. Fully aware that he’s going down into that cot and is no longer in your arms. It means ready to drift off into a peaceful sleep, calm and relaxed but awake enough to know you have put him down.
Mums are often convinced they put their baby down awake. Now, you may call me a ‘pessimist’ but I can hazard a guess that 75% of you don’t!
Why? Well, here’s the thing. Your baby need’s to be aware that they’re going down in the cot. That awareness means they will usually have their eyes open and be awake for more than 5 minutes after being placed in the cot. They shouldn’t be asleep in a nano second of you putting them down.
Now I get that this seems like a really, really un-do-able task and one that fills you with dread. I thoroughly understand the feeling of relief when you’ve finally got your little one to stop fussing and crying and they’re finally asleep in your arms.
I also get that all you really want to do is get those pj’s on and put your feet up and have a bit of me time with a glass of wine after a long day once in a while. (Hey, maybe that’s even too blooming exciting for you right now). Rephrase – sod the wine you just want your bed. BUT seriously, it’s worth thinking about this and starting to put some ground work in place, because if you don’t, you might find you’ll be back up them stairs like ‘Jack Flash’.
So to RECAP
Drowsy but awake isn’t:
- Putting your baby down when they are so drowsy that they are asleep in seconds of being placed on the mattress.
- Putting your baby down so carefully, you would think they were made of china just incase you induce a crying fit once they are in the cot.
Tips on how to put your baby down Drowsy but awake:
- Making sure your baby does NOT fall asleep on the breast, having a bottle or being rocked and cuddled. It is absolutely fine to do all the above but, make sure they are not asleep or too drowsy when you put them down.
- If your baby is in the habit of falling asleep at the breast orbottle why not change the order of the feed. For example if you breast or bottle feed your baby as the last step to your bedtime routine, then change the order. Bath, feed and then massage or story for example.
- If you like to feed as the last part of your routine, then make sure you stimulate them enough to put them down drowsy but awake by talking to them calmly throughout the feed or winding them after the feed to bring them around a little.
- If the last thing you do is rock or cuddle then that’s fine, but gradually work on shortening the length of the cuddle every few days so that eventually your baby goes down awake.
- All babies are different, that goes without saying. Gradually work on noticing how long it takes for your baby to go from the awake to drowsy stage. Work on putting your child down at different stages of drowsy. So for example 1 minute before you think they will go to sleep for a few days. Then 2 minutes before they fall asleep. Baby steps and gradual improvement is all it takes. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
P.S. Without the basic sleep foundations in place you may always struggle to help your baby sleep.
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Hope that helps. Good LUCK! You can do it by taking BABY STEPS