The dreaded Meltdowns
I really hate to burst your bubble here but MELTDOWN’s don’t magically stop after the ‘terrible two’s’. Oh no, you’re in for the long haul.
I’m sorry if you were under some sort of illusion, I was too and it came as one great big shock. They go on and on and on.
You see, if you think about it, it makes totally sense.
Our toddlers are dealing with an emotional overload more about that >>HERE<< and that happens to us all. We all feel emotions, sadness, anger, frustration, it’s what we do with it that makes the difference.
So if for some MAGIC reason you thought that emotional overload doesn’t happen past three, well you are sadly mistaken. So it makes even more sense to start as you mean to go on and really understand and make sure you learn how to deal with all this emotional turbulance because BELIEVE me when I say the teenage years are a total and utter rollercoaster and in my experience just as difficult as the toddler tantrums. If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a THOUSAND times, I wish I had known what I know now about emotions, feelings, the brain tantrums and meltdowns, as I would have been a better less stressed parent with stategies in place for dealing with all that life throws at us.
Are BIG KIDS meltdowns normal?
Yes! I think I’ve already made that quite clear. Of course it is. We just don’t usually refer to them as tantrums, but they are really.
The difference is, with your help and support your little one can learn to manage all those feelings and deal with their anger in a much more constructive and appropriate way.
There’s some GOOD NEWS though
Don’t worry, it’s not all doom and glum there are loads and loads of things you can do to help yourself and your child deal with these tantrums. I’m still using these strategies to help me understand and manage my children and as you probably know they aren’t toddlers anymore.
Developing awareness of all this emotional turbulence is one of the best things you can do for y ourself as a parent and your child. It will put you in a much stronger place to manage and deal with these challenging times.
So what can you do?
Just to point out, I’m not saying that tantrums and emotional meltdowns will never or should never happen. Sometimes they simply can’t be avoided and sometimes your child really needs to let rip. However developing your awareness of what is really going on will pay dividens.
- Teaching self regulations skills
- Talking about and explain feelings
- Learning to see things from your child’s point of view instead of your own adult self.
- Acknowledging and accepting their feelings as important
- Accepting the tantrum as emotional pain instead of labelling it as naughty. See more >HERE<
- Learning to regulate your own emotions
Please, please do think about this and start putting all these things into practise. I can’t stress enough how important this is and how much it will make a difference to your ability to cope with this challenging stage.
You are also providing the foundations for how your little one will face and managing daily challenges and stress in later life. AN absolute MUST in my opinion and I’m sure you will agree.
If you would like further help and support or you are feeling overwhelmed by this challenging stage I am totally her to help and support you. I found this particular stage of parenting extremely difficult (see my story HERE) and identified that there is very little support out their at this stage. If you would like to work with me further check this out below.
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