Reacting in the ‘heat of the moment’
Dishing out consequences that are more often than not really harsh.
If you’re like me, I dish out the consequences when I’m less than calm and then later regret the ‘said’ consequence and retract it because I know it’s unreasonable and unfair.
Where does that leave me?
Feeling guilty and not following through on my actions.
Then I’m left wondering why I keep seeing the repeat behaviour.
Try to remember always that ‘DISCIPLINE’ is about teaching and learning. Whether that be better behaviour or just behaviour you would prefer to see.
❓ So what do ‘consequences’ as a means of discipline teach your toddler?
❓ It teaches them to follow rules and what to expect when they don’t follow the rules you set.
❓Teaches them to be responsibility for their choices.
So how do I use consequences to discipline my toddler?
These are what happens automatically.
For example. It’s freezing cold outside and your toddler won’t wear his coat.
Consequence: He gets cold.
Obviously, you would take your toddler’s coat with you and explain to him when he tells you he’s cold the consequence of not wearing his coat is feeling cold. Therefore he is learning by his experience.
💡RELATABLE AND LOGICAL CONSEQUENCES💡
You could also use the same scenario If you don’t wear your coat you can’t go outside and play. You are giving a logical consequence for his choice.
When using consequences try to make them relateable to the behaviour you want to change.
Make sure you make the consequence is clear to your toddler. Use easy to understand language. Don’t complicate things.
Therefore teaching them a great lesson that their behaviour does have an outcome or consequence.